One thing sudden occurred once I turned 50. Really, it began the 12 months earlier than as I started to really feel the massive 50 steadily approaching. I finished caring — not about myself — really fairly the other. I started really caring about myself as I started to care much less about how I sound, how I’m perceived, what individuals consider me. As I regarded round at my girlfriends who have been all both approaching their 50th birthday or who had lengthy since been there, I noticed all of us shared this sense. What a shock it was — somewhat than anticipate my 50th birthday as a dreaded, ‘over the hill’ occasion, I really really feel prefer it gave me a brand new freedom; a freedom to not take a lot so significantly. I do not imply to suggest that I’ve grow to be impolite, insensitive or the like. I merely don’t trouble with most of the issues I felt bothered about earlier than and I chuckle extra. Now, I’ve at all times been an assertive, outspoken particular person, so what is definitely totally different? I have been questioning what this phenomenon is all about as a result of it is a distinctive and fairly great expertise that many people ladies share.
One latest morning, I noticed it extra clearly once I was with a gaggle of 5 ladies that I meet for breakfast twice a 12 months. We had been neighbors and periodic strolling buddies, however over time, schedules and transferring to different neighborhoods made getting collectively much less handy. We sustain with one another and the information of our households by this twice a 12 months breakfast the place we have a good time our birthdays. One thing had modified and getting collectively this final time was totally different. Three of us simply turned 50 and two will probably be celebrating their 50th birthday this 12 months. Our traditional catching up and dialog had a special high quality — it was irreverent and enjoyable in an entire new approach as if no topic was any longer too taboo to speak and chuckle about. We exchanged birthday playing cards and presents that made us chuckle so loud at ourselves that different individuals within the restaurant could not assist however smile and need they have been in on the joke.
Considered one of my pals talked about the Pink Hat Society for girls 50 years and older, which celebrates ‘performing your age’. This made me notice that the sentiments I’ve are greater than a private expertise and are shared by so very many ladies. My curiosity, fueled by my background in psychology, made me take into consideration this widespread bond. I noticed that as we flip 50, we’re catching a glimpse of our mortality and making a selection about how we wish to really feel and reside the remainder of our life. By now, we all know what’s essential and what is not, what must be taken to coronary heart and after we can chuckle unabashedly at ourselves and at one another. We have been doing all, or nearly all, of the issues we’re presupposed to be doing for 50 years and we’ll proceed (most of them anyway) as a result of these are issues we would like in our life. However now that we have lived 50 years — for the subsequent 50 let’s chuckle out loud at ourselves a bit extra and a bit louder and make on a regular basis just a bit extra enjoyable! In spite of everything, there’s so much to smile about.
Supply by Sara Thompson